Quote of the Week

A little something for Diane on her birthday…

The one thing children wear out faster than shoes is parents.
- John J. Plomp

Newlywed foiled by office pranksters

What do you get when you combine a dozen or so talented people craving to use their creativity in an energy sapping office and a fun-loving co-worker on a week long honeymoon? You get the prime opportunity to pull off an over the top office prank that people will be talking about for years to come.

The Monday following Mark’s beautifully timed September 21st wedding (a fine day for a wedding anniversary!) his co-workers began recruiting members of the office to punk his cube. What began as an innocent office prank turned into an office-wide phenomenon as word of the project spread. Occupying the cube directly across from Mark gave me the unique opportunity to witness scores of people who came from far and wide to witness the construction project; commenting on the creativity, the attention to detail and the improved radio reception throughout the building. Each day the aluminum foil cube drew increased attention as it became brighter and emitted intense heat from the glare. Four days and over 1000 square feet of aluminum foil later, the masterpiece was complete and ready for Mark’s return to work.

Luckily, Mark has a very good sense of humor and appeared to take the office prank to end all office pranks quite well. What took days and a team of over a dozen people to put together took less then two hours to take down. Luckily, there are some permanent reminders left in the cube to give us a chuckle and remind us of the week we came together to have a little fun at the expense of our co-worker; and foiled everyone’s perception that you cannot have a good time on the job.

For additional pictures visit the full album of aluminum foil photos.

People say the darndest things

It is difficult to convey the type of bias and discrimination couples without children are victims of without sounding defensive or confrontational. Our social and political environment favors those families with children, leaving the openly childfree in a position of making a major political statement simply through their choice not to join the masses and procreate. Often the target of wrath and lecturing, childfree couples are forced to retreat or defend themselves when on the receiving end of hateful words and actions from relatives, friends and perfect strangers. Some people think they are being helpful, bestowing their wisdom on the matter. Most people do not stop and think what they are really saying and how it could be interpreted as degrading to the childfree recipient as well as the broader population. Gender, racial, sexuality and religious biases are often at the core of the message delivered to the childfree. For those who do not know what type of things people say or imagine why anyone would care about such a personal decision, the following list is a small example of things people have said to me about not having children:

• Why did you even get married? The only reason to get married is to have children.
• Your husband is going to leave you if you don’t have children.
• Are you too worried about the stability of your marriage to bring children into it?
• Marriage is not real unless you have children.
• You are not a family without children.
• Children are the glue that keeps marriages together; you are going to fall apart.
• If you really loved each other you would want children.
• You must have married the wrong person if you don’t want children.
• It is your moral obligation to have children when you get married.
• God does not recognize marriages without children.
• The bible says to be fruitful and multiply; you are defying the bible.
• People without children have empty and unfulfilled lives.
• Childbirth is a woman’s greatest achievement, you are nothing without it.
• You are not a real woman unless you have children.
• People like you should have kids.
• Women are worthless until they have children.
• The problem with women these days is they’ve forgotten the reason they are actually on this planet.
• Are you a lesbian?
• You are never really an adult until you have children.
• Women who do not have children are failures.
• White people are a dying breed and you are contributing to the end of our race.
• Smart/tall/blonde/blue eyed people like you need to have children.
• Who will take care of you when you are old?
• Aren’t you afraid of dying alone?
• Without children you leave the world nothing after you are gone.
• You are going to die and it will be like you were never here.
• Don’t you want to have a child to leave your money/house/photos/china/etc. to?
• You are going to regret your decision not to have children.
• You are just going through a phase, you’ll change your mind.
• Hopefully you change your mind before it’s too late.
• Your husband will be able to have children well into his 50s and he’ll find someone else to have them if you don’t.
• It’s different when it’s your own.
• People who don’t want kids are selfish.
• What if your parents were as selfish as you are?
• What did your parents do to you to make you not want children?
• Were you abused as a child?
• Your parents should not have sent you to college; they ruined their chances of becoming grandparents.
• The only reason your parents had you was to be grandparents someday
• If everyone had your bad attitude the planet would be empty.
• You feminists are ruining the world with your child-hating ways.
• You should be ashamed of yourself.
• Your career/vacation/car/etc. won’t kiss you goodnight.
• You are going to lose all your friends when they have children and you don’t.
• If you had a baby you would have an excuse for being fat.
• What do people without children do with all their time?
• You would be a great parent, look how you are with your dogs.
• You are using your dogs as a replacement for children because you actually want them.
• You not wanting children is a slap in the face to everyone who has them.
• There is something wrong in people who don’t want children.
• You should see a psychologist to see what is wrong with you.
• You have nothing to be ashamed of if you are just infertile.
• I know a good fertility specialist if you are just having trouble conceiving.